I have seen quite a few threads about the art of country counting, travel snobbing, and Lord knows whatever else, and I decided it was my time to speak on it. As I did with another post, I might ruffle some feathers a bit, #AndThatsFine, because this is my truth. So, if you are a "travel shamer", I'm talking to you!
When people ask me how my trip was, one of the first words that comes to mind is "liberating". Aside from the unlimited amount of choice and freedom I had, this was the longest time I had EVER sported my own hair. I admit, I initially did not want to wear Foxy out and about while Eurotripping but in my newest post (link in bio), you will see how I felt about it. I walked a bit taller every day and I suppose the Europeans could feel my goddess appeal too. 💁🏾 I was officially over makeup, the weight I thought I gained (actually lost), and the inevitable shrinkage. What I will also say is that Europe is not lacking in natural hair beauties. Now, go read my post. This is dedicated to my fellow Queens! 😉😝🌍✨
Do I Count Countries?
Obviously, lol. My personal challenge is to visit 30 states and countries by my 30th birthday. At the end of November I will be up to number 17, and I am extremely elated. I've been doing this for about 18 months now and had no idea I'd approach 20 so rapidly. I've also been in a bit of a funk lately and am in dire need of a getaway with some sand (woot woot). However, if you don't ask me the number of countries I have been to, I won't tell you. Why? I think some (not all) people like to throw the number of passport stamps they have in others' face and that's a form of elitism I'm simply not about. "I'm awesome because I've been to 69 countries." Tell me what you learned though?
You Are Not Instantly Better Than Anyone Because You've Crossed a Border.
I'd give you fiftyleven reasons why I love traveling and what I learn (domestically or internationally), but that's not the focus for today. It simply makes me want to scream when people "jokingly" say "oh, I'm not on your level" "oh, you think you're better now because you've been traveling". Pardon me? I kicked my traveling into high gear after my grandfather passed because I knew nothing as simple as a day was promised and I wanted to LIVE my life. Every single day of it. Newsflash. If you aren't living in your current city, you won't be living abroad either. And I certainly don't think I'm better than others because I've seen different parts of the world. If anything, I've had multiple slices of humble pie because while I still feel like I'm a hot a** mess, I'm a blessed hot a** mess (Sorry, Big Homie). If you ever got the impression from my Instagram that I want you to "get like me", you've got it all wrong.
I'm a curious learner, and the world is a huge textbook. I've been obsessed with foreign languages since I took a few Japanese lessons when I was in elementary school. I am enamored with skylines and can't get enough of a stunning oceanic view. I love learning about the school systems in various countries and wish my own students knew how blessed they truly were. But please, don't think I'm not about taking getaways to get loose, because you absolutely should, but let it be known I bring the fun with me. I won't give someone a side eye because they choose to get lit in Chicago instead of London.
We are so busy trying to please others instead of living for our own truth.
If you don't have a passport, don't get it to please others. I LOVE when people step outside of their comfort zones and explore, but you gotta do it for you. If your friends suddenly don't want to take trips just because you got a passport two weeks ago and now you feel like you need a new circle, please pause. I detest that travel is becoming a form of elitism because it takes away the fun. That's awesome that you went to Cancun three years ago and now are getting ready to go to Fiji, but don't roll you eyes at others that are excited for new places. It's not a competition, y'all! Our O-zone layer might be depleting, but Mother Earth isn't going anywhere. I personally feel that Big Homie and I have our best conversations when I am away and completely out of my comfort zone and it's just me and Him. I like pushing my boundaries and taking it all in, but that's just me. I simply hope that we all can have conversations instead of making assumptions. Life is too short but don't you dare ever look down on folks simply because you have the privilege to get away.
I realize I didn't bid you adieu. Blame the drama that ensued. Number 15, I didn't think I'd see you. I missed a bus because, Amsterdam, and almost let that dream die. Then I thought about your art and got myself together. I truly owe you some time. I didn't do you justice. You all party harder than I imagined and my stereotypes of you in my head were shot to shit. Even when the homeless men tried grabbing me... 😒 and I was ready to battle, I still enjoyed you. I was happy to enjoy your history, your international scene, and was HONORED to stay on the historic East Side. You are a gem and I see why people hype you up. 🇩🇪✨
What do you all think? Am I tripping? Let's talk.