I Travel For Me, Not the Competition

Life is short and the world is wide.

I have seen quite a few threads about the art of country counting, travel snobbing, and Lord knows whatever else, and I decided it was my time to speak on it.  As I did with another post, I might ruffle some feathers a bit, #AndThatsFine, because this is my  truth.  So, if you are a "travel shamer", I'm talking to you!


Do I Count Countries?

Obviously, lol.  My personal challenge is to visit 30 states and countries by my 30th birthday.  At the end of November I will be up to number 17, and I am extremely elated.  I've been doing this for about 18 months now and had no idea I'd approach 20 so rapidly.  I've also been in a bit of a funk lately and am in dire need of a getaway with some sand (woot woot).  However, if you don't ask me the number of countries I have been to, I won't tell you.  Why?  I think some (not all) people like to throw the number of passport stamps they have in others' face and that's a form of elitism I'm simply not about.  "I'm awesome because I've been to 69 countries." Tell me what you learned though?

You Are Not Instantly Better Than Anyone Because You've Crossed a Border.

I'd give you fiftyleven reasons why I love traveling and what I learn (domestically or internationally), but that's not the focus for today.  It simply makes me want to scream when people "jokingly" say "oh, I'm not on your level" "oh, you think you're better now because you've been traveling". Pardon me? I kicked my traveling into high gear after my grandfather passed because I knew nothing as simple as a day was promised and I wanted to LIVE my life. Every single day of it.  Newsflash. If you aren't living in your current city, you won't be living abroad either.  And I certainly don't think I'm better than others because I've seen different parts of the world.  If anything, I've had multiple slices of humble pie because while I still feel like I'm a hot a** mess, I'm a blessed hot a** mess (Sorry, Big Homie).  If you ever got the impression from my Instagram that I want you to "get like me", you've got it all wrong.

I'm a curious learner, and the world is a huge textbook. I've been obsessed with foreign languages since I took a few Japanese lessons when I was in elementary school.  I am enamored with skylines and can't get enough of a stunning oceanic view.  I love learning about the school systems in various countries and wish my own students knew how blessed they truly were.  But please, don't think I'm not about taking getaways to get loose, because you absolutely should, but let it be known I bring the fun with me.  I won't give someone a side eye because they choose to get lit in Chicago instead of London.  

We are so busy trying to please others instead of living for our own truth.

If you don't have a passport, don't get it to please others.  I LOVE when people step outside of their comfort zones and explore, but you gotta do it for you.  If your friends suddenly don't want to take trips just because you got a passport two weeks ago and now you feel like you need a new circle, please pause.  I detest that travel is becoming a form of elitism because it takes away the fun.  That's awesome that you went to Cancun three years ago and now are getting ready to go to Fiji, but don't roll you eyes at others that are excited for new places.  It's not a competition, y'all! Our O-zone layer might be depleting, but Mother Earth isn't going anywhere.  I personally feel that Big Homie and I have our best conversations when I am away and completely out of my comfort zone and it's just me and Him.  I like pushing my boundaries and taking it all in, but that's just me.  I simply hope that we all can have conversations instead of making assumptions.  Life is too short but don't you dare ever look down on folks simply because you have the privilege to get away. 

Rant complete.


Do you roll your eyes at others when they travel to locations you have already been to? Do you judge people for not owning a passport? Do you believe that people haven't lived if they haven't gone abroad? If you have answered YES to any of these questions, you need to read this post! 

Do you roll your eyes at others when they travel to locations you have already been to? Do you judge people for not owning a passport? Do you believe that people haven't lived if they haven't gone abroad? If you have answered YES to any of these questions, you need to read this post! 

What do you all think? Am I tripping? Let's talk.

Peace and Blessings